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How to spot a liar.

We have all met people who were dishonest and avoided eye contact. It has been said that "the eyes are the mirror if the soul." Many people know that their eyes betray their lies. Some try to conceal the truth by wearing sunglasses of looking down at the ground.

Eventually, you will confront someone and need to know if they are being honest. It may be a friend, a family member or an employee. Police have established a method of evaluating the truthfulness of a person by watching the movements of their eyes. It's not an exact science by any means, and it can be manipulated by a skilled criminal or a seasoned liar, but is it generally accepted as a good indicator of honesty.

The following are some general patterns that you can use when talking to someone. It shows the various directions of eye movements of a person and explains what is usually going on in their mind at that moment. It illustrates that a glance to the observer's left usually reveals a creative process -- when someone is "making up" facts or lying. A glance to the observer's right reveals that the subject is remembering facts.

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Active listening: Building relationship by listening

Positive encouragement

To listen actively, you should help the other person to speak, using attentive body language and encouraging words. Especially when they are uncertain, supporting them with nods, 'yeses' and eyebrows raised in anticipation can be very effective.

Sometimes encouragement is best with silent attention, given them space in which to find the word they need, quietly sitting through the pauses. If they are emotional, accept their emotional state without criticism and without saying 'please don't cry' when we really mean 'please don't upset me'. If someone is moved to tears, one of the most powerful things you can do is to allow them to cry.


Attentive listening

In attentive listening you pay obvious attention to the other person so they can see that you are interested in what they have to say.

The opposite of attentive listening is inattentive or casual listening, where you are not obviously paying attention to the person but you may (or may not) actually be listening carefully.
Total listening

Rogers and Farson (1979) describe active listening as 'an important way to bring about changes in people.' They recommend three activities:

* Listen for total meaning: Listen both for content and also for the underlying emotions.
* Respond to feelings: Sometimes the real message is in the emotion rather than the surface content. In such cases, you should respond to the emotional message.
* Note all the cues: Not all communication is verbal, so watch for the non-verbal messages.

Reflecting

When you reflect what you hear back to the other person, you are demonstrating that you have heard what they have said.

Reflect back what you hear not by parroting back the same words but by paraphrasing, using your own words to rephrase what they have said. A good way of doing this is to summarize what they have said in fewer words.


Demonstrate respect

As Rogers and Farson point out, 'although it is most difficult to convince someone that you respect him by telling him so, you are much more likely to get this message across by really behaving that way...Listening does this most effectively'.

http://changingminds.org/techniques/listening/active_listening.htm
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[MsExquisite]

How to Avoid Purse Snatchers

Introduction

You can make yourself a less attractive target for purse snatchers by following these guidelines, based on the recommendations of the FBI and the National Crime Prevention Council.


Steps

1. Whenever possible, carry valuables in your pockets rather than in a purse.

2. Be alert at all times, and look like it.

3. Be on particular alert when leaving areas where people tend to obtain money or valuables, such as ATMs or banks. Try to use ATMs during the day, use drive-up or in-store ATMs if possible, and have your card in hand when you approach the machine.

4. When walking, keep your purse close to your body, with your hand over the clasp. If you are also carrying packages or other bags, keep your purse between your body and the packages.

5. Keep your purse with you at all times. Don't leave it unattended to tempt a purse snatcher.

6. Do not display the contents of your purse, especially large amounts of cash or expensive jewelry.

Tips & Warnings

* Don't keep the straps of your purse wrapped around your wrist. You risk injury to yourself in a purse snatching.

* If someone does try to snatch your purse, do not fight the purse snatcher and risk injury. Instead, note the thief's characteristics - race, height, hair color and clothing - and report these to the police.

http://www.ehow.com/how_1889_avoid-purse-snatchers.html
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[arnold]

How to Win Friends and Influence People
This is Dale Carnegie's summary of his book, from 1936

Part One
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

1. Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.

Part Two
Six ways to make people like you

1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
2. Smile.
3. Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.

Part Three
Win people to your way of thinking

1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."
3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
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How to Become Highly Motivated for Your Job

Trying to become highly motivated for your job is probably one of the toughest challenges one faces in the workplace. Especially when you are tasked with some of the most mundane work. So, what do you do when you feel like you have lost interest? Is there a way for you to become highly motivated for your job?

There is a personal 'formula' I use. I call it the 'CARES'. One who CARES enough becomes highly motivated for one’s job. CARES stands for Conviction, Attitude, Respect, Empathy and Sincerity.


Steps

1. Conviction. Conviction is a firm belief of what you want to do. A firm belief gives you the courage to move towards your goals. Ask yourself what are your career goals? How does these career goals match with your company’s goals? Believe in the company’s goals if you are to become highly motivated for your job. Align these goals to your career goals and you begin to see more meaning in what you do.

2. Attitude. Attitude is a your way of thinking and behaving towards your life. In whatever tasks assigned to you, approach it with a positive attitude. A positive attitude means doing each job with pride, passion and belief. Give the job assigned to you; your best shot no matter how menial. When you approach work with a positive attitude you begin to become highly motivated for your job. It will contribute towards your career success goals.

3. Respect. Respect is a feeling of admiration for people’s good qualities or achievements. Far too often newbies at work do not give enough respect to their supervisors and colleagues. This is especially when they do not thoroughly understand each other’s role. To become highly motivated for your job, start with self-respect. Respecting yourself. If you want others to respect you, you must start respecting yourself. Understand your own roles in the organization. Each person’s roles contribute to the greater objective of the company. If you look down upon your own job, then you wouldn’t appreciate what you are doing. People will start to lose respect for you when you do not even respect yourself. Then learn to respect others. Respect others in your organization. Each and everyone in the organization deserve your respect. From the tea lady to the janitor, they each have their role to play and each contributes to the bigger objectives organization. Learn to see the good qualities in others that deserve your respect.

4. Empathy. Empathy is the ability to imagine and share another person’s feelings and experience. In our work, we are bound to meet with colleagues who are uncooperative or clients who are unreasonable. In such cases, you would feel de-motivated. To overcome this, learn to empathize with that person. Understand why such requests are being made.

5. Sincerity. Sincerity is saying and doing only things that one really means or believes. When we do the work that has been given to us, do it sincerely and joyfully. When someone has helped us in the course of our work or have made a certain task more manageable thank them sincerely. That way you begin to see that the job isn’t that insurmountable. You begin to become highly motivated for your job.


Warnings

* The important thing about being highly motivated for your job is knowing what you want. If you do not know what you want with your career in the long term, then you cannot see the relation between what you do now and the future.



http://www.wikihow.com/Become-Highly-Motivated-for-Your-Job
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How to deal with bullies at work

Advice and tips on how to survive bullying and intimidation in the workplace, and ways of dealing with individually, legally, or collectively.

Cuts in staffing and resources, increasing workloads, performance related pay: all have made work more pressurised. The University of Manchester says bullying accounts for up to half of all employment stress. The few studies done show the majority of incidents are by bosses, but it's still important to support people being bullied by work 'mates'. Call it what you will: harassment, aggression, coercive management, intimidation, or things seen as 'just a joke' - all are common labels for what is really bullying. Racial or sexual harassment, or that based on sexuality or disability, may also take the form of bullying. Bullying is any long-standing aggression, physical or psychological, by an individual or group directed against someone who is unable to defend themselves. It is rarely confined to insulting remarks or open aggression, but can be subtle, devious, often taking place when there are no witnesses, and be difficult to confront for those whose confidence and self esteem have been worn down. It is a myth that only quiet or 'weak' people will be victimised since a bully will also pick on the popular or successful if they're perceived as a threat. Widespread bullying by bosses is hardly surprising in world which is structured hierarchically - the rich living off the working class, men dominating women, adults abusing children... Work is similarly organised, to control the behaviour of workers with management positions providing the perfect situation for bullying.

Bullies tend to surround themselves with supporters, spies and 'court jesters' while cultivating allies in senior management. The bully will create rivalries in the workforce, as people anxiously fight to stay in their favour, creating a divisive culture which brings out the worst in people. To be 'in' with a bully can seem the best way to survive, and cover any feelings of inadequacy by displacing these on to others, through siding with the bully's aggression. But as long as a bully feels that they can get away with it they will continue.


For more visit: http://libcom.org/organise/dealing-with-bullying-at-work-guide
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How to Meditate

Meditation has long been known in Eastern religions as a way to reduce tension and attain peace of mind. There are variations some of which might not be suitable to everyone or if practiced in the extreme. This topic is worth studying if you are having trouble breaking the anxiety and stress habits.

Some basic meditating might easily replace stress and tenseness with peace of mind and relaxation.

An over simplified effort might be:

Find a quiet place by yourself.
Get in a relaxed position.
Rest your eyes downward, almost closed, not tight.
Breathe slowly and naturally.
Do not think about anything else except what you are doing.
Do this for 15-20 minutes.

When lying wide awake in bed, or taking a calming break, try fixing your eyes and thoughts on an insignificant mark on the wall, a small glittery area, or perhaps a shadow. Keep staring at this and think of nothing else. As your eyes wander off bring them back to the object. With practice this will often send you off to a dreamy, peaceful state. (This is not advised while on the job or in the classroom.)

"Meditation has been defined as the cessation of active eternal thought" - Helena Blavatsky (1831-1891)




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How to connect Paypal with your Unionbank EON Account?

1. First you need to have a Paypal Account. If you don’t have one and plans to do business online or has an existing one, I suggest you sign-up and get a premier account. Yes, Premier!
2. After signing with Paypal, visit Unionbank's Official Website to apply for an EON Cyber Account online. The card can be picked-up after 3 to 5 banking days from the branch where you have nominated to get the card. By the way, when you get your card, make sure you bring 2 valid I.D.s with their photocopies and at least 500 to 1000 pesos for initial deposit (though initial deposit is not required). I will explain later why you need to deposit initially. By the way, don’t forget to sign their hardcopy form so that your account will be activated. This again usually takes 3 to 5 banking days for it to be activated but I suggest you put on your beautiful smile and ask if your account can be activated immediately since your going to link it with your Paypal. I got mine activated the next day.
3. When you have your card and have deposited an initial amount, go back to Unionbank's Official Website to get your EON Cyber Account enrolled to internet banking. After enrolling your account, it takes 48 hours for you to login and start online banking. You can’t skip this one, so you have to wait.
4. When your account is already active, go back to Paypal and add your EON Cyber Account. Paypal will charge you with $1.95 as an Expanded Use Fee (use to verify your accounts real existence and this is the reason why you need to have an initial deposit). After 5 banking days (since the day you added the card to your Paypal Account), call Unionbank Toll Free Customer Service Number (1-800-1888-2277) to get your Expanded Use Number.
5. Once you acquired the Expanded Use Number, login to your Paypal account and continue with your EON Account registration (adding or enrolling your card). Now that your added and completely verified by Paypal, your sending and withdrawal limits will be lifted. And now, you won't be having a problem when it comes to withdrawing your money. You can withdraw your money through Unionbank ATM (highly recommended since there will be no withdrawal charge).

Now, you are geared for an online business or personal transaction even if you are based in thePhilippines.


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